Ever wonder who’s lookin’ for love in your area? Do you spend your time in front of your computer? Want to plan ahead for a hook up with someone on a business trip? Want to make sure you dip you toe in the warm waters of the swinger style in a different part of town? Hook Up Maps is just what you’re looking for!

Hook Up Maps is a technology hookup between virtual community Craigslist and online mapping wonder Google maps. Not affiliated with either site, Hook Up Maps is a new site that organizes Craigslist personal ads to show where personal ad postings come from by area on Google maps to break down who is looking to hook up, how many, and where they are.

Searches can include all dating keyword or be reduce searching parameters by sex, age, orientations, postings with pictures, or specific keywords. Once you’ve found what you’re looking for, you can scroll your mouse over hearts around town to read all Craigslist postings from that area. This could really be good for singles looking to find an area rich with potential for love too since each tab heart shows the number of listings for that area.

Currently the site is showing it’s own bi roots with bi-coastal United States listings. The site is only match making in Los Angeles, California, Maryland, New York, NY, San Diego County, California, San Francisco, California, Virginia, and Washington, D.C. but promises that it is working quickly to incorporate more Craigslist communities.

Once you find the perfect person in the perfect area, you can go to their Craigslist posting and reply there or you can respond directly on Hook Up Maps page which also allows you to post a picture with your reply. You can also post your wanted ad directly to Hook Up Maps.

It’s a great way to begin screening your next date. With Hook Up Maps, you can save yourself hours of work by prescreening not only by the usual categories, but by quickly finding who you’re looking for in the right area. We can’t promise what will happen after you meet them- that adventure is strictly up to you!

Even the most solid relationship can wilt a bit in a partner swap either in the beginning steps or even later into a well established lifestyler’s “career”.  In the heat of the moment, it can be difficult to remember everything that you need to in order to ensure a happy, healthy swap.  Gentle Nibbles received an email this week that gave an easy to remember guideline- the 20% rule.

The idea is simple.  When you’re in the heat of the moment, remember one thing above all- give 20% more of your attention to your partner than anyone else in the room.  This simple idea is really brilliant.  At the end of the night, you’re going to go home with your partner, why wouldn’t you want to give them more than anyone else in the room?!  Locking eyes with your partner and having them raise an eyebrow at you with a wicked smile can do wonders for their confidence.  Besides, what could be sexier than knowing that despite everything going on, you are the one your partner has on their mind?  Also, as the discussion points out, it is very easy for someone to feel left out when there’s bumping and grinding going on all around.  Giving this extra attention to your significant other keeps them feeling that they are wanted right where they are!

Gentle Nibbles is looking for more guidelines that those in the lifestyle use to solidify their relationship.  We hope to see more of the discussion, but better, share it with Shoes Only Travel.  What do you do to make sure your partner knows s/he is the most important person in the room to you?  Anything you do special on vacation?  Hit the comment button and let us know!

In an interesting move, the Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA) blasted Kevin Smith’s new movie, Zack and Miri Make a Porno, by giving it an NC-17 rating, ranking it with traditional adult movies and virtually unmarketable in a commercial movie market.  Zack and Miri Make a Porno, despite it’s name is actually a more traditional romance where to platonic friends decide to make a porno in order to make money and in the end find romance.

In the motion picture industry, an NC-17 rating is the kiss of death.  The star of the movie, Seth Rogan, had the role of Zack custom written for him by the movie’s director, Kevin Smith.  In response to the initial NC-17 rating, Rogan told MTV “’They [fight against] sex stuff. Isn’t that weird? It’s really crazy to me that ‘Hostel’ is fine, with people gouging their eyes out and sh– like that,’ Rogen shrugged. ‘But you can’t show two people having sex — that’s too much.’”

The title alone would imply a sexual nature of the movie. A movie directed by Kevin Smith would also lend itself to implication of a blatantly sexual movie. This is the guy who tackled love outside of sexual identity in Chasing Amy, plugged his second Clerks movie with an over the top bestiality scene including a donkey, and even when he went mainstream with Jersey Girl, the promo showed Ben Affleck and Liv Tyler were busted in the shower.  (With the amazing follow up, Affleck’s movie daughter asking Tyler “what are your intentions toward my father.”) 

After appealing to the MPAA, Smith was able to receive an R rating, making it more marketable which was a good thing considering the pre-press already buzzing around the questionable content.  Even more impressive, Smith was able to attain the more appealing rating without cutting any of the movie.  In the movie’s production blog, Smith said “All that really means is that what you see in theaters will be exactly what we were hoping to show you in theaters. None of this waiting around for the unrated DVD shit.”

The rating being overturned was the first cleared hurdle.  Next would be the battle over the movie poster. As IMDB, the internet movie database, reports, “The movie’s original poster was deemed too explicit by the MPAA and was banned in the US, because it suggested the characters on the posters are engaging in oral sex. It featured two separate images of Seth Rogen and Elizabeth Banks, who are fully clothed, and the back of the actors’ heads close to each other’s crotch.”  Instead, the marketing team brought more attention to the ongoing debate about the movie by creating a new and “improved” poster which points directly to the problems they had with the poster for US audiences.

The movie is set to open October 31, 2008, however, the buzz is already very strong.  Across the world, the challenges to Zack and Miri Make a Porno continue to show the close-minded nature of certain Americans when it comes to sex but not when it comes to violence or gore. Unfortunately for Kevin Smith, the cast and crew of the upcoming movie, the MPAA appear to be of that American mindset.  Fortunately for Americans, Smith is smart enough to fight and shine light on the problem.

Women of Wall Street, have no fear about your, um, bottom line.  Hugh Hefner has a stimulus package of sorts for you.

Despite laying off some of his infamous Playboy Bunnies in a move that looked very economic, Hef’s looking for some day-trading divas to grace the pages of Playboy in a Women of Wall Street pictoral set to feature in it’s February 2009 issue.  

“Given the current economic climate, we thought that Wall Street could use something to smile about right now,” stated Gary Cole, Playboy’s Senior Vice President and Photo Director.

In keeping with it’s women of big business spreads which have included Women of Enron and Women of Home Depot, Women of Wall Street is actually a repeat performance of a pictoral of the same name done 20 years ago. 

If you have experience in the investment game and the desire to show off your remaining assets, information on the nationwide search can be found on Playboys site.  The deadline for submission is October 24, 2008.  As always, potential playmates must be verifiably 18 years of age or older.

A reader replying to the story on Huffingtonpost.com said “How about Women of Main Street instead, I could use the money.”

Perhaps closeted celebs are reading the Shoes Only blogs and caught the last post about fidelity and true happiness.  Today in two not-so-surprising twist, Clay Aiken and Lindsay Lohan have finally admitted their attraction to members of the same sex.

Aiken came clean to People magazine in a not-so-hard-to-see decree. “’It was the first decision I made as a father,’ Aiken, 29, tells the upcoming issue of People, on newsstands Friday. ‘I cannot raise a child to lie or to hide things. I wasn’t raised that way, and I’m not going to raise a child to do that.’”  Bravo Clay!  However, it’s not like Aiken did not set off our gaydar in his early days of American Idol.  The only thing that made this outing notorious was the length of time spent skirting the issue.

Lohan, on the other hand, has been dating her partner, 31 year-old DJ Samantha Ronson “for a very long time” to the tongue wagging of paparazzi and reporters. Lohan finally went public to a radio talk show host yesterday confirming the long time speculation after numerous public displays of affection including a kiss in Cannes aboard the yacht of P Diddy, Shawn Combs.

Hurrah for both of them. Perhaps it will encourage other closeted music makers and Hollywood starlets to embrace their true sexual identity.  And maybe we’ll see Lindsay and Samantha on the next Shoes Only Travel cruise where like all trips male/female couples and single woman or female couples are always welcome!  Why should Diddy be the only one having fun in the sun with the new couples?

There is a lot of talk about marriage lately.  Parade, the insert found in many Sunday newspapers across the country, had a report on the current state of marriages that was enlightening.  Oprah had a highly controversial show about why men cheat last week that got so much attention that it had to have a follow up.

The subject isn’t so new, though. In fact, Oprah was covering the topic of swinging, dubbed “Secret Sex in the Suburbs” back in late 2004.  On the show, a church going, PhD married suburban wife says “swinging has improved her sex life.  ‘What you find out is that it just enhances the experience with your life partner,’ she says. ‘Some of the best sex we’ve had is after we’ve been with somebody else.”

Oprah’s latest relationship and family expert, family counselor M. Gary Neuman, gave tips on how to affair proof your marriage.  The one that seemed most important was communicate your feelings.

Even in an open relationship, communication is a cornerstone.  In fact, it may be more important.  Being able to tell your partner what happened, how you felt about it, and what you learned from a swinging experience can help improve your relationship.

A blog on Thoughts.com about open relationships speaks to the various types of swinging, voyeurism, and other types of open relationships. Again, the main topic is openness with your partner.  It recommends that you “take a good long look at yourself and truly know yourself in and out, before engaging in a long term commitment or relationship with your partner, you would have been up-front and honest with them when first meeting. Telling someone about yourself and your likes and dislikes happen in every single relationship. Do you have the ability to be honest with yourself and potential partners…”

While the post goes on to be more specific about swinging relationships, this seems to be good advice for any long term relationship one would engage in.  The Parade report on marriage found that when it comes to sex,

31% have sex less than once a month
48% of men don’t have sex more often because their spouse isn’t interested
33% of women don’t have sex more often because they’re tired
25% describe marital sex as either tolerable or terrible

Those who responded online to the findings questioned the accuracy of them.  Still, these are high numbers for sexual dissatisfaction.  Maybe the people on Oprah’s Secret Sex in the Suburbs have truly found the right way to stay happy for the long term.

Eastern Europe may not strike you as the most likely place for naturists but surprisingly, it features one of the oldest naturist resorts in Nove Mesto nad Vahom - Zelena Voda. Nevertheless, and certainly from looking at the websites promoting Slovakian naturism, the Eastern European perspective is solely about the health benefits rather than for sexual satisfaction. The Slovakian Naturists Club is a good place to start for more information about locations and types of naturists beaches that appear to be scattered along the shores of the various lakes.

I particularly loved their description of naturists:

“Naturism is not about looking on naked bodies and spying - these are left behind to voyeurs. Naturists are not exhibitionists. Naturism is only about enjoying of splendid freedom achieved in naturist environment. Clothes restrict this freedom. Naturism accepts human body in real appearance - with all beauties and shortcomings. There is nothing to shame for. Naturists do not know the person ranking like too fat, lean, low, tall, hairy, bald…. Nobody will comment the shape of your breasts or the dimensions of your penis. If you have some scar, simply ignore them like others do.”

Somewhat challenging this belief, a lover of mine recently returned from the country where he spent most of his time sunbathing naked and, being a bit of a perve, having sneaky solo fun behind a tree whilst looking at the beautiful Eastern European women lying naked all around him. He said the beaches were full of families, singles and couples. Naturist beaches were everywhere and often he fell asleep naked at night, only to wake up the following morning. As he told me, ‘You can do whatever you want. No one pays any attention.’ With Eastern Europe still one of the few relatively cheap places to visit in Europe, now is the time to make a visit as the beginning of October signals the end of the season.

For those of you worried about your co-workers checkin’ in on your browsing habits while you’re trying to decide which Shoes Only adults only destination to choose, the anxiety level just dropped a bit with the help of Mozilla’s Firefox browser.  The new version is reported to allow more privacy for online viewing with it’s new “private mode” rivaling Apple’s Safari, Microsoft’s Internet Explorer, and Google’s Chrome browsers.

While Firefox 3.1 is still in beta testing mode right now, it should be released to the public in the next few weeks.  Once it is, users will be able to open a new browser in “private mode” which will not keep a record of your online browsing history.  This is a certain disappointment to your IT geeks looking to capitalize on your fun!  Guess they’ll have to spend time researching their own trip! 

This is not only a win-win for those looking for adult entertainment, it is also a great way to keep personal information private in the public sector.  You will be able to check the web cam at your children’s schools, bank info, and even office email from any public computer- without having to worry that the person following you will be able to find his way to where you just were. 

Yeah, yeah.  The practical is great and all, but it’s the porn we’re excited about!  Even better, you’ll be able to save all kinds of money by eating lunch in the office- with the door closed!

Technology, making the world a better place one great beta test at a time!

Casting my mind way, way back, I remember one of my first sexual experiences that took place on the small Greek island of Ios. I must have been about twenty-three when I went went there with a girlfriend from London. We caught a cheap flight to Athens, then hopped on a boat at Pireaus to Ios. The place was a clubber’s paradise but even back then, I preferred the sound of the lapping of waves to a thumping bass in my ear. We discovered a boat that left once a day for a quiet beach on the opposite side of the island and departed for there early one morning with nothing more than a towel and a bathing costume. When we arrived, we discovered the bathing costume was unneccessary.

The little beach was completely naturist and we happily removed our clothing to get an all over tan. There were not more than a dozen people on the beach, many of them Italians and we struck up a conversation with them. Well, it wasn’t so much a conversation as hand signals mixed with the few words I knew from my college Italian classes. There was one taverna on the beach and for a couple of Pounds we could have fresh fish washed down with a beer. Then we both fell asleep, missing the one boat back to the main part of the island. Thankfully, the local taverna had one spare room left and gave it to us for the night. I seem to recall it was £2. These days it would be more like £20, if the place was there at all.

The next morning, we woke up, went back to the beach and lay back down on the warm sand. I fell asleep again only to feel drops of water on my toes. I lifted my head up slightly to check if it was raining but instead found a tanned, naked, attractive, slim blonde man dropping water on my feet. ‘It’s raining,’ he said with a faint Dutch accent.

I sat up and looked at him. I hadn’t noticed him the day before. We sat and chatted for the rest of the afternoon, making plans to meet up in the evening. That night he took me to the top of a nearby mountain and lay his foam mattress on the ground. We had sex under the stars. I left the beach that night, taking a boat back to the main town with a local fisherman. I never saw or heard from him again. I wonder whatever happened to that beautiful, deserted naturist beach.

If the daytime was relatively sedate, at night the streets turned into a glamorous parade of beautiful, and not-so-beautiful, people dressed in fetish gear and the kind of clothing that wouldn’t have looked out of place on a Hollywood Boulevard streetwalker.  There were some surprisingly ordinary-looking people amongst the crowd, attired in their day clothes of comfortable trousers, flat shoes, and loose blouses.  Yet the atmosphere was electric, because the people all seemed free and liberated and nonjudgmental.  Yet just like in any other resort, people wandered from one shop to another, shopping for souvenirs. Except here the focus was on the sexy clothes for sale, much of it, I was happy to discover, at prices that were quite reasonable by London standards. Yet a lot of it was gear suitable for a naturist/swingers resort, not the streets or even clubs of London.  Crotchless, bell bottomed white lycra trousers, micro mini skirts, sky 6” high lap dancing shoes.  I came back empty handed.

I came to Cap d’Adge prepared - - with my favourite pulling outfit, a leopard-print halter neck dress and some sky-high slut shoes.  Rachel looked dynamite in thigh-high red lace-up boots and a micro skirt and top, whilst Nishka wore a pair of cut-off shorts topped with a green and black brocade corset. More than once we heard people say of us, ‘Les anglais. Ze are crazy, no?’ No crazier than anyone else, so we considered their appraisal a compliment.

The highlight of the trip came after midnight, when the couples clubs came to life.  We found our bulls-eye, a club called Tantra, after popping in and out of a number of doorways. It was dark and atmospheric and filled with good-looking people of all ages. We sucked and fucked our way around the play spaces and dark rooms until early morning.  Most of the French couples wanted to watch more than play, but being exhibitionists on holiday, that didn’t bother us.  Rachel took on a twelve guys, stopping only because she was tired and feared a thirteenth man might prove her unlucky number.  Lying down in a group playroom, blindfolded, I let a man fuck me before he reached into my pussy and slid his hand back and forth until I gushed.  It was my first time - - a memorable finale to what was a most amazing holiday.