All travelers to the various erotic resorts have what I like to call “sexpectations”. It is exactly these “sexpectations” that will influence their choice of resort, week and or group, and ultimately whether or not the adventure is a memorable one.

Sex-pec-ta-tions

1. The act or state of expecting : anticipating sexual adventures
2. Basis for expecting : assurance of sexual adventures
3. Prospects of experiencing sex

While everyone has sexpectations, like fantasies, they are not all the same. Although there are an endless number of variables and sub fantasies we breakdown the sexpectations of the majority of our travelers (couples) into three primary categories.

Adventure Travelers (voyeurs) – Those seeking to be immersed in an erotic, even sexually charged atmosphere to enhance and recharge their own sexuality and relationship. They are excited, even aroused by being in the erotic atmosphere, but do not have any desire to play or interact with anyone other than their own mate.

Virgin Explorers – Couples who have not really been involved in the lifestyle before. They have usually talked with each other about expanding and experimenting with their relationship. Typically, they view the open and free atmosphere of a clothing optional or nude resort as a great venue to experiment. Also, as we all know and most likely have personally experienced, often you are willing to try things when in a vacation atmosphere, in a foreign country surrounded by strangers that you might never consider in your home environment.

Seasoned Lifestylers – You know who you are, you may never have been to a lifestyle resort or you may have a tree at Hedo II (for those that do not know when you visit Hedo II 25 times they plant a palm tree with your name- there is a dentist that has 3!) either way you are there to experience and soak in everything and possibly everyone J

So how do you balance your Sexpectations and what is realistic to anticipate? As you can imagine they are different for each of the groups above, but oddly enough the three groups generally live in peaceful harmony at the same time at the same resort.

With that said, depending on your category and your sexpectations, there certainly might be different resorts and weeks where you are more likely to find more of your species!

This is where we work most closely with our travelers, helping them to select the right resort and the right week to allow them to realize and fulfill their sexpectations. Which resort is best? Should they just go on a normal week, or should it be a group week? How long should they go for? These are just a few of the factors to consider.

I like to tell folks, there is never any pressure to do something they may not be comfortable with. If anything, they might have to make their desires known or they may find themselves left totally alone out of respect for their space. Now I am not saying you need to wear a hat that says “come fuck us” (although some have recommended that as a tool) but you do have to present yourselves as open and willing to explore in order to get into that situation.

So, in short, think about your sexpectations, discuss them with your partner, then do it again and then do it again (communication is the key) J Then, when working with your favorite travel professional, don’t be afraid to tell them what category you fall into and what are your Sexpectations……it will pay off with the best vacation of your life J

This is an excerpt from “Crusie News” an update to booked travelers aboard our “Erotic Caribbean Cruise”

Erotic Caribbean Cruise

We want to welcome all of our fellow erotic cruisers to the inaugural issue of our “Cruise News.” This publication is designed to keep everyone that has booked this amazing trip updated on the upcoming event so you can anticipate, plan and provide input on your cruise….the operative word. As important as us providing you information will be the input you will be providing to us on what you want to see, enjoy and experience on your fantasy adventure.

As we are about 13 months out we will start with a newsletter every 3 months or so and as the magical date gets closer we will progress to monthly updates.

Remember, this is by no means a traditional cruise but rather a private charter of the entire ship. This means that there are many things that we can change, adjust, add or experience that are totally different from what the Cruise Ship normally offers. Of course we will all be naked, so that is already different and yummy J

Some of the other things we have flexibility on are ports of call, entertainment, theme nights, playrooms as well as other delights. So please don’t be shy about emailing us with suggestions, recommendations, etc.

On March 1^st we are going to cruise on the Windsurf to do a site visit and meet with the Captain and key staff. We are going on the same exact itinerary as our cruise so we can look at the standard ports of call as well as alternative options. We are also going to be working closely with the cruise director and head chef to see what variations are available to make our cruise perfect. We will be getting back to you all about mid March with a detailed report of the trip, ideas we have developed and, most importantly, various options for everyone to consider and comment on.

Happy New Year to all –

Lori & Jonathan

Owners

General Info:

When:                                  January 24, 2010 – January 31, 2010

Ship:                                     Windstar, Windsurf

Port:                                     Barbados

Total # Cabins:                   156

Travelers:                           Couples & SF’s only

Whether you’re looking for built-in friends and fun for your first trip to a lifestyle resort, or you’re looking forward to meeting up with old friends while meeting new friends to your favorite resort, a Shoes Only Travel resort takeover week may be just what you’re looking for. 

As the name implies, a takeover happens when Shoes Only books all the rooms in a resort or on a cruise giving them full, exclusive access to all the resort has to offer.   All the personal attention results in a more luxurious vacation for you and your partner! Another takeover plus is that with the resort all to Shoes Only guests for the week, all your fellow guests are there for the duration, unlike at other times during the year when check ins and check outs happen daily.  All your new friends will be staying just as long as you are!

For newbies to lifestyle travel, filling a hotel with others traveling with Shoes Only Travel may seem to mean only that everyone in the resort booked through the same travel agent- but that’s not the only perk of having booked for a takeover week.  When Shoes Only takes over, there are fun filled activities designed to get you mingling with your fellow Shoes Only travelers.  The first night is usually spent at a get-to-know-you reception where new lifestylers meet one another and experienced travelers reunite. Listening to returning guest regale their stories and pass along tips can help those newbies decide how to make the most of their first experiences. For the rest of the week, the activities are tailored to the Shoes Only crowd offering more fun and excitement.

Returning guests to a resort can have fun with the special activities planned exclusively for Shoes Only guests during a resort take over as they take in past favorites of the resort.  They can also enjoy familiar activities with a new level of service with the increased staff to guest ratios. 

Because take over weeks are 100% Shoes Only guests, bear in mind that there have to be enough guests registered to fill the resort requirement for take over.  This means you have to book ahead and pay in advance early enough to ensure a commitment to the vacation.  It also means it’s a great time to talk your friends, either real life or online, to join you. What a great way to meet friends from an online site such as Couples Touch or other social networking sites.  Even if you don’t click as well as you did online, there will be more playmates for you to meet in the course of your stay!

Shoes Only Travel has a variety of resort takeovers & group trips planned for 2009 at Desire, Hedonism, and Hidden Beach resorts as well as an exclusive Lifestyle Luxury Cruise, giving you 9 chances to give in to the private pleasures of an exclusive Shoes Only experience.  The first planned trip for 2009 is a holiday recovery in Desire, Los Cabos.  What could be a better gift than a get away in the sun with a nice group of  friends right after the stress of the holiday season?  It might be hard to put a bow on, but it is one gift you’re certain to remember forever! 

Getting started in “the lifestyle” has fascinated you for awhile now.  You’ve decided to book a trip to an adult playground but are unsure of which one and how to behave there.  C’mon, Shoes Only Travel does more than get you to your destination, they are there to help you make the best choice for you.

 To get started, take the Traveler Personality Profile to find out which is the right destination for you.  Hedonism may sound like fun, but maybe a bit more than you’re ready for.  Let Shoes Only help you plan a vacation for you that is a better fit.  You can always go back for more- it is, after all, a lifestyle, not a vacation style!

Once you have your itinerary booked, you can start looking up information about what to expect on your trip.  In on-line resort forums, the best, most informational posts are from experienced vacationers; ones who have been to the resorts multiple times and probably make an annual visit.  They know the staff by nickname, they have their room all picked out, and they can tell you how wild and crazy things can get.  It sounds like fun for them, intimidating for you.  This is your first time.  Not to worry.  Everyone has a first time.  All the regulars remember their first time and are happy to welcome you into the family.  Running naked to the beach after dropping your toothbrush off in your room might be too fast for you.  Read up and find out the best spots to people watch.  Plan a day to warm up to the whole scene, and be ready to throw all expectations out the window too!

But still, you don’t want to go in totally clueless.  Continue reading.  A great first step regardless of where you’ll start your swinging experience is to learn swinger etiquette.  There is no better way to stand out like a sore thumb than to not know how to handle yourself.  Remember things like the importance of talking to people regardless of how nervous you are.  A drink may help ease the tension. Dress sexy.  It will help boost your confidence as well as get you noticed.  Above all else communicate with your partner.  You are always in control and always have the right to say no.  Browsing might be the easiest first step you can take before jumping in head first.

Beyond the internet, there are some helpful books to consider.  One that gets high reviews is Swinging for Beginners: an introduction to the lifestyle.  It helps open up communication between you and your partner about conversations you might not know enough to have, offers tips, and tells real world stories from people who started right where you are. 

Regardless of how you learn about the lifestyle, remember to keep an open mind.  The best way to let yourself go regardless of where you go is to go with the flow.  You might find yourself in a situation you never dreamed possible that will blow your mind and have you panting for more.  All the studying in the world is useless unless you get yourself out there and experience it for yourself!