Anyone holding back from launching into a relationship for sexual confidence reasons should get tickling their love button with a toy - or two.

It may seem obvious, but one well-versed sexpert across the pond has reiterated the experimentation rule to a worried novice who reckons she can only come if she’s lying on her stomach.

Responding to the worried virgin, SEE magazine’s Josey Vogels reassures her that “we all have specific needs and preferences” when it comes to the boudoir.

Before she branches out into the bonking arena, Josey advises the help-seeker to ditch her old vibrator and invest in a shiny new vibrating egg or silver bullet-style clit stimulator.

This, when used in conjunction with a regular “penis-shaped vibrator”, will have her knocking on the orgasm door in no time, according to the love doctor.

When it comes to doing the dirty with the lucky bloke she ends up dating, Josey assures the angst-ridden reader the effect will be recreated if he takes her from behind while she gets clit-tickling (with her new toy, if she fancies) from the angle she’s used to.

Ms Vogels is not alone in her affiliation for a spot of battery-operated assistance in the bedroom - most sexperts advise even the most experienced couples to keep things fresh by experimenting, experimenting and experimenting some more.

 Ever wonder who’s lookin’ for love in your area? Do you spend your time in front of your computer? Want to plan ahead for a hook up with someone on a business trip? Want to make sure you dip you toe in the warm waters of the swinger style in a different part of town? Hook Up Maps is just what you’re looking for!

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There is a lot of talk about marriage lately.  Parade, the insert found in many Sunday newspapers across the country, had a report on the current state of marriages that was enlightening.  Oprah had a highly controversial show about why men cheat last week that got so much attention that it had to have a follow up.

The subject isn’t so new, though. In fact, Oprah was covering the topic of swinging, dubbed “Secret Sex in the Suburbs” back in late 2004.  On the show, a church going, PhD married suburban wife says “swinging has improved her sex life.  ‘What you find out is that it just enhances the experience with your life partner,’ she says. ‘Some of the best sex we’ve had is after we’ve been with somebody else.”

Oprah’s latest relationship and family expert, family counselor M. Gary Neuman, gave tips on how to affair proof your marriage.  The one that seemed most important was communicate your feelings.

Even in an open relationship, communication is a cornerstone.  In fact, it may be more important.  Being able to tell your partner what happened, how you felt about it, and what you learned from a swinging experience can help improve your relationship.

A blog on Thoughts.com about open relationships speaks to the various types of swinging, voyeurism, and other types of open relationships. Again, the main topic is openness with your partner.  It recommends that you “take a good long look at yourself and truly know yourself in and out, before engaging in a long term commitment or relationship with your partner, you would have been up-front and honest with them when first meeting. Telling someone about yourself and your likes and dislikes happen in every single relationship. Do you have the ability to be honest with yourself and potential partners…”

While the post goes on to be more specific about swinging relationships, this seems to be good advice for any long term relationship one would engage in.  The Parade report on marriage found that when it comes to sex,

31% have sex less than once a month
48% of men don’t have sex more often because their spouse isn’t interested
33% of women don’t have sex more often because they’re tired
25% describe marital sex as either tolerable or terrible

Those who responded online to the findings questioned the accuracy of them.  Still, these are high numbers for sexual dissatisfaction.  Maybe the people on Oprah’s Secret Sex in the Suburbs have truly found the right way to stay happy for the long term.

Britons spend more time on romance than on foreplay, according to a sex survey by Virgin 1.

The results of the Europe-wide poll show that Swedes have the most partners, Germans love using toys the most and Italians are most likely to film themselves having sex.

Brits get the accolade of spending the shortest time having sex – a session lasts just five minutes, compared to German couples’ two hour romps.

More than a third of British couples do not even have sex once a week, while 29 per cent of French lovers have it three or four times a week.
Furthermore, Swedes are nearly twice as likely to sleep with someone on the first date than Brits.

Reposted from www.scarletmagazine.co.uk