As one of the few single women I know that goes to swinging clubs, parties and holidays, I’m probably more qualified than most on the rules of engagement. I got into the scene, quite by accident, with a boyfriend who wanted to have lots of casual sex on his birthday. I wasn’t shocked. He was a sexual guy and we’d had the occasional threesome with friends of his or guys he used to pick up for me in bars. I’d heard of a local club that held a weekly couples night and with no more knowledge than that in mind, we set off. That night we ended up meeting a gorgeous Spanish couple and a few others. He had a great birthday and I haven’t looked back since. Going into that swinging club was quite an eye opener but it took me over a year from our first experience until I was confident enough to go on my own.
If you’re thinking of going to Hedonism or one of the other clubs offered by Shoesonlytravel on your own, be prepared for lots and lots of fun! Single girls are very much in the minority and it takes a special kind of woman to be able to deal with all the attention, some of it unwanted. It pays to be clear from the start with prospective sex partners what you will and won’t do. Touching, unless requested, is completely forbidden and I’ve had guys thrown out of play spaces for putting their hand somewhere without asking me first. There is no point in being shy and frankly, it’s pretty unusual to find a shy, single woman in a swinging club. Most of the gals I meet in clubs are forthright and frank. We’re there for sex, after all. Guys know this but often don’t realise there’s a difference between wanting sex and wanting them.
Nine times out of ten, if you ask, you will receive. The swinging world is full of very generous people. Set the rules and you’re sure to find plenty of men who are happy to play by them.