20% Rule
Even the most solid relationship can wilt a bit in a partner swap either in the beginning steps or even later into a well established lifestyler’s “career”. In the heat of the moment, it can be difficult to remember everything that you need to in order to ensure a happy, healthy swap. Gentle Nibbles received an email this week that gave an easy to remember guideline- the 20% rule.
The idea is simple. When you’re in the heat of the moment, remember one thing above all- give 20% more of your attention to your partner than anyone else in the room. This simple idea is really brilliant. At the end of the night, you’re going to go home with your partner, why wouldn’t you want to give them more than anyone else in the room?! Locking eyes with your partner and having them raise an eyebrow at you with a wicked smile can do wonders for their confidence. Besides, what could be sexier than knowing that despite everything going on, you are the one your partner has on their mind? Also, as the discussion points out, it is very easy for someone to feel left out when there’s bumping and grinding going on all around. Giving this extra attention to your significant other keeps them feeling that they are wanted right where they are!
Gentle Nibbles is looking for more guidelines that those in the lifestyle use to solidify their relationship. We hope to see more of the discussion, but better, share it with Shoes Only Travel. What do you do to make sure your partner knows s/he is the most important person in the room to you? Anything you do special on vacation? Hit the comment button and let us know!
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